Lying is the child's common behavior problem. When the child did bad thing to be afraid that parents is angry again, meeting “ is normally lying the rebuke that ” will come to to escape parents, scold, beat up even.
How to develop the quality and style of child honesty? Is the child lying how to do?
○ not “ teachs ” child to lie.
Do not like to recieve call in person, cannot let the person that the child tells to call in: “ says I am not in the home. ” did what thing not to wish to let a sweetheart know, cannot say to the child: “ does not let your Mom know. ”…… gives the child's consent, the parent also must cash.
Parents has certain authority normally in child memory, especially the child with smaller age, always think parents says or be those who do is right. Him parent “ lying ” , the child can be imitated naturally.
○ does not punish the child that says true word.
If the child said to endure criticism to perhaps take an exam in the school today,fail, and a sharp criticism that changes parental right on the face, even physical punishment, the child will be experienced gradually say true word can be punished, do not say true word can not have a thing in safety, come up against similar case later, the child can think method “ is lying ” or conceal in order to escape punishment. Accordingly, tell you when child first time he entered disaster or study grade outside bad, the parent should praise the child's honesty above all, help child analysis why can make mistake next, together
Find out the tweak that solves a problem to come. Such, the child is not afraid of pair of parents to tell truth later, had difficulty to also be willing to appeal at the parent.
○ gives the child dry housework vivid chance more, develop the ability that the child lives independently.
Have a lot of father and mother too doting to the child protection, cause the child to depend on, viability of independence of compliant, sensitive, recreant, lack.
Go to school when such child when entering collective activity, constant regular meeting is self-abased because of ” of him “ incapacity, often can lose contact with reality consequently the ground is pretentious oneself, try to escape or compensate a classmate with superior move laugh at or of the teacher blame.
○ praises the child that rewards honesty in time.
After the mistake that tells the parent when the child he makes according to the facts, the parent should praise the courage that the child admits his mistake above all, the bad thing that does to the child again next undertakes criticism, corresponding ground should reduce the criticism to the child or punishment, make honest behavior of the child gets seasonable affirmation, aggrandizement. The parent should remember, develop a good behavior habit, award is more important than penalty.
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